Back When We Were Grownups

Back When We Were Grownups

A Novel

Book - 2001
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"Once upon a time, there was a woman who discovered that she had turned into the wrong person." So Anne Tyler opens this irresistible new novel. ¿ The woman is Rebecca Davitch, a fifty-three-year-old grandmother. Is she an impostor in her own life? she asks herself. Is it indeed her own life? Or is it someone else's? ¿ On the surface, Beck, as she is known to the Davitch clan, is outgoing, joyous, a natural celebrator. Giving parties is, after all, her vocation--something she slipped into even before finishing college, when Joe Davitch spotted her at an engagement party in his family's crumbling nineteenth-century Baltimore row house, where giving parties was the family business. What caught his fancy was that she seemed to be having such a wonderful time. Soon this large-spirited older man, a divorcé with three little girls, swept her into his orbit, and before she knew it she was embracing his extended family plus a child of their own, and hosting endless parties in the ornate, high-ceilinged rooms of The Open Arms. Now, some thirty years later, after presiding over a disastrous family picnic, Rebecca is caught un-awares by the question of who she really is. How she answers it--how she tries to recover her girlhood self, that dignified grownup she had once been--is the story told in this beguiling, funny, and deeply moving novel. As always with Anne Tyler's novels, once we enter her world it is hard to leave. But in Back When We Were Grownups she so sharpens our perceptions and awakens so many untapped feelings that we come away not only refreshed and delighted, but also infinitely wiser.
Publisher: New York : Alfred A. Knopf, distributed by Random House, Inc., 2001
Edition: 1st ed
ISBN: 9780375412530
Characteristics: 273 p. ; 24 cm


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Jan 28, 2017

A reflective read for women who question their identity and role as a wife and a mother, and wonder what might have been had they chosen differently.

WVMLStaffPicks Dec 22, 2014

Rebecca Davitch, a 53 year old grandmother, can no longer be content just being the heart and soul of her extended family. She sets out to recover her girlhood self and in so doing presents the reader with one gently humourous episode after another. Specially recommended for--but not restricted to--the over 50 mothers amongst us.

skylars Mar 15, 2014

Not as good as other books written by her. Does ring true, though, about not being satisfied with your life, and thinking by going back to what might have been, might have been better. Not!

raineyfamily Jul 15, 2012

This is a wonderful story. Even though there is an age difference between me and the main character I could relate to her thoughts and feelings.

BugLady1 Jul 11, 2012

Good story about a lady who wonders what it would have been like if she chose to go down a different fork in the road at some time in her past. Great characters and a nice believeable and entertaining story.


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SPL_STARR Jun 16, 2015

"Once upon a time, there was a woman who discovered the had turned into the wrong person."


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